We are individuals outside of being parents. Being a mother is part, albeit an important part of who I am, not my whole identity. I value my mental health, my personal time, my friendships and all the other parts of my life that make up who I am. Ultimately, I value myself.
It took a long time for me to be able to say that unapologetically, and without feeling I had to justify these things. I am a better mom because I value taking time for me.
You know what told me this is important? My mom gut (and I don't mean the extra stretched out skin). The super power every parent has to guide them in parenting. You can read every book and every blog, and that's great but you and your family are unique and no one but you can ultimately decide what's best for your family. Valuing and taking care of yourself should be top priority. This will look different for everyone because as I said, we all have unique families and there is no one size fits all solution. Taking care of you could be as easy as asking a friend or family member to help or setting personal boundaries (yes even with your kid(s)).
This is the most important part, are you ready? Here it comes!
Prioritizing yourself doesn't make you a bad parent. Look at you! You are crushing this parenthood thing! You got that down! You are enough and you are valued.
Sincerely,
Mikayla, A human being ❤️
